DARING GREATLY LESSON 1: HOW VALUES LIGHT THE WAY
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Lesson Objectives
- Identify 1-2 potential barriers to engagement in the course and begin to develop strategies to deal with those barriers with a permission slip exercise.
- Choose an arena in your professional or personal life where you want to demonstrate the courage it takes to show up, be seen, and live brave.
- Learn how values operate in our lives and the role they play in daring greatly.
- Identify the key values in your life and identify the behaviors that support them so you can learn to recognize when you are in value alignment and when you are not.
Reading Assignment – Daring Greatly
Introduction and Chapter 1
Lesson Video – How Values Light the Way
Exercise One – Permission Slips
Sometimes the first step is giving ourselves permission.
Think about what you need in order to get the most out of this class.
Maybe you need to give yourself the gift of time. Maybe you need to give yourself permission to be honest or look at issues with a new eye.
Sometimes we just need to give ourselves permission to “not know” – to stay curious and open.
Fill out your permission slip Post-It note. (This will show up as a Post-It note in your workbook.)
You’re welcome to write more than one permission in the same field.
In this exercise, think about an arena in your life where you want to show up and be seen. Having something specific to think about as you work through future lessons will help you get the knowledge in your bones.
Your arena doesn’t have to be a big event or moment. It can be any place in your life where you would like to be more authentic.
Sometimes our toughest arenas are the small moments or the goals we’ve forgotten or the relationships we’re neglecting.
It is important to be as specific as possible –
- I want to have a more honest relationship with my sibling.
- I want a closer, more intimate relationship with my partner.
- I want to have the courage to run for my son’s school PTO.
- I want to start making and selling my own jewelry.
- I want to ask for a promotion.
- I want to take a new class at the local community college.
Exercise Three – Values Clarification
“A value is a way of being or believing that you hold most important.”
Brené Brown
Download the attached List of Values and circle the words that most resonate with you. Look for the words that you consider most important and essential to who you are. Be creative! Don’t feel limited by the sample list provided. Add new words for any value that’s important to you but not on the list.
Reflect on the words you circled.
What are the actions or activities that exemplify these values?
What choices do I make that breathe life into these values?
Who are the people that encourage and support me when I’m acting on these values (especially when it’s not comfortable)?
Because of these values, my life is more:
Without these values, I would be missing:
“There are no guarantees in the arena. We will struggle. We will even fail. There will be darkness. But if we are clear about the values that guide us in our efforts to show up and be seen, we will always be able to find the light. We will know what it means to live brave.”
Brené Brown
Let’s think about values in terms of the lantern. Download the attached lantern and then answer the questions on the worksheet.
Art Journaling Exercise
Journaling Instructions:
- Find or take a picture of yourself and attach it to your journal.
- Write the names of three people you admire.
- Under each name write several bullet points describing the things you admire about them.
- What do you love about that person?
- What inspires you about that person?
- You will begin to see patterns in the qualities you wrote down. Use these patterns to choose or refine the values you most identify with.
- You can use the supplies you have available to get creative when completing and decorating this journal page.
