I hope you find someone who smiles at you every time you walk in the door. Who finds beauty in your scars. I hope you find someone who never leaves you guessing. Someone who lets you know for certain how they always feel about you. I hope you find someone who never hesitates to love you. Who doesn’t just give you pieces of their time but it’s entirety. I hope you find someone who knows just how special you really are. How your soul needs to be loved. I hope you find someone who is your biggest supporter. Who doesn’t just seek attention but gives it in return. But mostly, I hope you find all of these things in yourself first so that you can be ready for this type of love.

~Natalie Peralta ♥️☝?. –

@thequotesway

If you’re looking to be her hero, you should start looking elsewhere. She doesn’t want a hero. She wants a best friend. A person who loves her for her and a person who isn’t trying to “put her back together.” She has come to terms with her brokenness. She has realized that no matter what, her past is her past, and it has helped her become the strong woman she is today. She doesn’t want a man who goes around thinking he can fix everyone.

Because what kind of person thinks that their presence will alter someone else’s past?

Probably a conceited person, probably a person who has never been hurt. And that’s not a person she wants to be with. She wants to fall in love with a man who has been broken just like her. She wants a man who has cried his heart out to a girl to try and keep her and still had to watch her walk away.

She wants a man who was his own hero just like she was because that’s a man with love to give. She wants a man who knows pain and heartache because that’s a man who knows what he wants.

He knows how to love and he knows how to love with everything he is.

A man who only wants to “save” her is a man not ready for a mature relationship. He is a man who doesn’t understand how being “saved” doesn’t change what has happened to you and it doesn’t make it hurt less.

She wants a man who understands what pain can do to a person, and how it is okay to have been broken by someone you loved.
Because she just wants a man who just loves her. She is done running around with men who don’t care. Who act interested but then end up breaking her heart.

She just wants a man who has been there, done that and is now looking for the real side deal.

Because even though she doesn’t need to be saved, she does want to be loved.

Source: Article by Nicole Clements.

“You know, it’s very surprising to learn that a woman is not only willing, but decidedly eager to give to a man that leads her by the understanding that she is different than every other woman before her. It shows her that he is willing to learn the uniqueness of her needs, and honestly, that can make her feel safe enough to express them. But again it also saddens me to learn that this is both rare and priceless, is the man that intensely seeks…”

Source: @snowwolfunleashed
#poetsoftheunderground – #regrann

I did not write this, but I found it online and thought I would share. -MLG

This is the real fake-it-til-you-make-it. Sadly, nothing is a bigger social repellant than loneliness. People don’t want to take on your emotional baggage when they barely know you. And people don’t want to feel like they are interesting to you purely based on the fact that they are better than nothing. So you need to get out there and meet people, but as if you already have a basically completely full life and are willing to make some space for them. And when people are friendly to you and make overtures, say yes, but don’t over do it. These overtures likely mean they are somewhat interested in getting to know you better, not in interviewing you to immediately to be their new best friend or love of their life. Remind yourself to take things slow.

Pursue your personal interests.

Join a writing workshop, take a language class, learn how to throw a pot, learn how to tap dance. If you have time be lonely, you likely have a lot of time on your hands, use it! Activities doing what you love are good for the soul, keep you busy and with a full life, and you will meet people with common interests this way. It also makes you way more interesting when you meet other new people.

Initiate plans with the friends you already have.

Don’t feel bad about always being the initiator with people. Most people are pretty self-centered and kind of glide through life reacting to stuff, rather than being “pro-active.” When your friends don’t call you, it’s not because they don’t care, it’s likely because they aren’t thinking as far ahead as you are, and aren’t thinking about that much other than themselves or maybe their immediate nuclear family. And don’t look down on being the initiator, it’s a great characteristic to have and develop. Initiators are why relationships last.

Get out of bad romantic relationships. Being lonely because you are with the wrong person feels worse than being lonely because you are actually alone.

Sometimes the loneliest people actually have a partner — but it is not a good fit. The initial break-up will probably feel like shit times ten, but once the acute period rolls back, you will likely feel much much better. Get a break-up buddy for this, call a friend, and it’s doesn’t even need to be a very close one and recruit. I recommend selecting someone who has been through a break-up relatively recently. This is the person you call or text when you are tempted to call or tempt your ex. This is the person you vent to in those first few weeks of wallowing. This is the person who will get your ass out of the house and back into life when it’s time to stop the wallowing period. Also, this shows that just having an SO is no panacea for issues of happiness and loneliness, don’t romanticize the idea that all you need is a partner and then you’ll be all set.

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