If you’re looking to be her hero, you should start looking elsewhere. She doesn’t want a hero. She wants a best friend. A person who loves her for her and a person who isn’t trying to “put her back together.” She has come to terms with her brokenness. She has realized that no matter what, her past is her past, and it has helped her become the strong woman she is today. She doesn’t want a man who goes around thinking he can fix everyone.
Because what kind of person thinks that their presence will alter someone else’s past?
Probably a conceited person, probably a person who has never been hurt. And that’s not a person she wants to be with. She wants to fall in love with a man who has been broken just like her. She wants a man who has cried his heart out to a girl to try and keep her and still had to watch her walk away.
She wants a man who was his own hero just like she was because that’s a man with love to give. She wants a man who knows pain and heartache because that’s a man who knows what he wants.
He knows how to love and he knows how to love with everything he is.
A man who only wants to “save” her is a man not ready for a mature relationship. He is a man who doesn’t understand how being “saved” doesn’t change what has happened to you and it doesn’t make it hurt less.
She wants a man who understands what pain can do to a person, and how it is okay to have been broken by someone you loved.
Because she just wants a man who just loves her. She is done running around with men who don’t care. Who act interested but then end up breaking her heart.
She just wants a man who has been there, done that and is now looking for the real side deal.
Because even though she doesn’t need to be saved, she does want to be loved.
Source: Article by Nicole Clements.
“You know, it’s very surprising to learn that a woman is not only willing, but decidedly eager to give to a man that leads her by the understanding that she is different than every other woman before her. It shows her that he is willing to learn the uniqueness of her needs, and honestly, that can make her feel safe enough to express them. But again it also saddens me to learn that this is both rare and priceless, is the man that intensely seeks…”
#poetsoftheunderground – #regrann
I think facebook is mostly a big waste of time and I hardly ever post on it anymore (compared to before…..) but every now and then I see something that really resonates with me and I feel the need to share it, or at least post it here so that I have easy access to it later.
Today a friend of mine posted something really transparent and honest and one of her friends, Cindy, gave this advice to her. Not only did it get the thumbs up from me, but I even Ctrl-C’d and V’d it right here. Also, I love talking about stuff like this. I love hearing about people’s struggles, challenges and ultimately their successes. I love finding out about people’s journeys and their passions. We are all here figuring out our lives, might as well take care of each other and help each other out. This is what I offer my friends. Come over (once I find a house) and we’ll open up a bottle of wine and talk about life. Or, we can use the Marco Polo app and talk it out that way. BTW, if you don’t have Marco Polo on your phone you should check it out. What an amazing way to keep in touch. I use it almost daily with my crew.
“Relationships are like a bus line. Go to the corner and get on a bus that’s going in a direction you like. If the bus is going where you don’t like get off on the corner and wait for another bus. Another one will come along. You can’t control the bus. Don’t take the driver by gunpoint and lead him down another route. He is already driving his own route. Let him continue on it. There’s nothing wrong with his route it’s just not yours. The route you need will come to you! That’s the great part- you get to choose your route not someone else! Put the gun down let that bus Go!”