DARING GREATLY LESSON 5: THE ARMORY

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Lesson Objectives

  • Learn the armor we use to protect ourselves against feelings of shame and how the uncertainty associated with vulnerability affects our ability to practice authenticity and experience connection.
  • Explore how and why perfectionism, numbing, and foreboding joy are three of the most commonly used armoring practices and how to move through them toward increased authenticity.
  • Learn how to recognize shame including our physiological responses.
  • Cultivate shame resilience skills.

 

Reading Assignment – Daring Greatly

Chapters 3 and 4

Introduction Video

Lesson Video – The Armory

Lesson Video – Shame Shields

Exercise One – The Physiology of Shame

Use the blank spaces to complete the following sentences with your own thoughts and ideas:

IF SHAME WERE A COLOR, IT WOULD BE . . .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Exercise Two – Shame Shields

Below are the three Strategies of Disconnection as developed by Linda Hartling, a relational-cultural theorist.

  • Moving away – withdrawing, hiding, silencing ourselves, and keeping secrets.
  • Moving toward – seeking to appease and please.
  • Moving against – trying to gain power over others, being aggressive, and using shame to fight shame.

Answer the following questions:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Art Journaling Exercise

Journaling Instructions:

  • Find or take a picture of what shame looks like or feels like for you and attach it in your journal.
  • Get creative with this page. Feel free to add stamps, stickers, color, etc. You can use the supplies you have available to get creative when completing and decorating this journal page.
  • Free journal using the following questions:
    • What does it feel like when you are in shame?
    • Do you move against, do you move toward, do you move away?
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